Relation-Ships

 I'll believe in you, because I prefer to do so rather then not trusting you, I'll take the risk of this beliefs not being true and getting broken anyway, because for me to love is to take risks, people don't match easily, relationships require effort and they aren't born as rainbows and dreams, people build them like so.

I believe we the first step is to naturally have a well built structure of communication, values and visions. However, after this it still requires commitment and adjustments, but in order to be happy, in my vision, this adjusments should not be regarded as friction, work or concessions but more as choices and investments, having to think a bit sometimes, a ship can sail by it's own, but if it's not repaired on the little holes or problems that keep raising on the way they grow bigger and sink the ship. 

The most important thing you need to know need to know is where you're motivation stands and what you're aiming for, never forgetting that you are a human and so is your partner.

Outside it all may seem pretty and easy while sailing on smooth waves, but it's not so, when I sign it, I sign it as a deal for a lifetime and I'm serious about it, sometimes it may seem a bit like work, but in this work unlike any other you're paid in happiness. If any and every day I'm when I'm assigned some little task on this ship I turn my nose away and start dreaming about a ship and deal with no work at all, that'd be a huge issue, since I'd be leaving the ship to sink or the other person to do all the work for me, leaving them exhausted. There's no such thing as just wanting to take the benefits out and ignore the 'work' part.

I don't know if it's pessimistic or realistic, but that's my point on love and relationships, and I believe that the healthy ones are the  ones where people are working because they enjoy see where the ship sails, having balance between maintenance and sailing, seeing all the destinations and possibilities where the other part can take them.

If you want the ship to sail as fast and confortable as possible, you got to be willing to put it the "work" to maintain and improve it, now it's up to you to see it as work or something different, here we have a saying that says "Those who run for pleasure don't get tired"

Love is about investing in the ship and see where it can take us and not sitting in the ship and wait it to take us somewhere.

I'd say that the main characteristic that distinguishes relationships from friendships is the responsibility it brings over the other person feelings and life, to maintain and water it, as friendships may come and go but a relation is meant to be kept close.